advice to my younger self
ITS MY BIRTHDAY TODAY! On my last post I talked about the quarter life crisis, which is a birthday week series I created where I look back and take you with me on memory lane for a pretty personal blog post. Now that I am technically 26, and I have some experience you can relate and maybe take note on my past mistakes.
Throughout the years there are many things one regrets in life. Yes, I have read the quote that says “don’t regret anything,” but in my opinion in inevitable. As years accumulate, you only find yourself looking back to past mistakes, things you wish you should had said, and things that, when you look back makes you cringe.
So today, I will be discussing the things I would tell my younger self. I cannot really pick an actual year, but let’s say it was between ages 18-23.
Now, during this time I was out of high school. I must say that during high school I don’t really have regrets, but one that still hunts me. However, at the same time, it was a really important lesson that shape who I am today.
We are going to start with that one. It is:
Don’t wait for ANYTHING or ANYONE
especially a boy.
Yes, this is about a boy. A boy who was one of my closest friends, but I was madly insanely in love with him. He was the only goal I had mostly because I knew he kind of liked me back, there was a problem though: he was taken. During those 2 years I hang out with him, he had two different girlfriends. First, I waited for him to break out with one and when they did, he started dating someone else.
& I waited…
We did end up in a really short relationship. Why you may wonder? Well it was not my decision, but his. After waiting for almost two years, in which I did not date anyone, HE broke up with me. According to him & his mom, I was not good enough. With not being good enough it means: not smart enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough. JUST NOT ENOUGH. I guess that is way he did not date me when he broke up with the first girl, and it was because he saw me as less.
As I mentioned, this shaped who I am, the believe that I am not good enough is now gone, but I did believed it for a good 5 years. Every time a cute hot guy liked me (has happened) I though they were too much for me and refused to date them. I was scared of the same thing happening again. My only wish, is that I could had relaxed and dated other people instead of giving him all my attention and feed his ego. He saw me as a liability and, in his eyes, I had no worth.
Which brings me to the second advice to my younger self
Don’t Let Anyone Measure your Worth
This really affected me for so long, the fact that someone & his momma thinks you are not good enough sucks. Although sweet sexy karma took it’s toll on him and his momma (i will talk about this in the near future). The thought did crawled to the back of my mind and stayed there. I wish I could tell my younger self that two conceited people who measure their worth on thinking they are rich when they are not, doesn’t matter. That other boys, will think you are smart, cute, funny and good enough & even more than good. Maybe they’ll even think you are the whole package.
My third advice advice to my younger self is
Don’t go in Debt when You can’t afford it.
By debt, I mostly mean credit cards. I made the horrible mistake of getting in a huge debt with three different credit cards. Yes, that is a very dumb thing to do, especially when you only have a part-time job. However, in my defense I must say that there is not too much advice out there when it comes to debt. We get makeup tutorials, fashion advice for EVERYWHERE but we never get anything about going on debt. So, I would tell my self to not go in debt just because I wanted a new iPhone or a car or new clothes. Now, I am desperate to get a job even more because I am so buried in debt I cannot payed it with a part-time job.
Lastly, my last piece of advice to my younger self, would be to be more applied in school. My only sin is that I am a really lazy person. I have always been lazy, i don’t like sitting down to read, i barely prepared for tests, and leave everything last minute. Thus, it took me longer to finish school.
So kids stay in school!