The quarter life crisis… Such a grim topic for all of us who are in our early and mid twenties to early thirties. In case you have no idea what’s the quarter life crisis is: it is period that hits on the age mentioned above, where you are how do I say this… LOST!
On this period, people are usually graduating college or recent college grads, they are trying to find their passions in life, what they are good at. Usually they are unemployed or hold a crappy part-time job. Also, they either never moved out of home or had to come back home. In addition, we do not have children and we are single our only worry is us.
I decided to touch on this topic because IT IS MY BIRTHDAY WEEK! Yes, I am turning 26 and I feel soo behind in life it is not even funny anymore.
“Last year, I experienced the quarter life crisis, & I must tell you, it was not fun”
This weird anxiety began to take a toll on me. I began to think about dead and going through my regrets in life, how behind I feel, and how poor I am.
I began checking profiles of those who graduated high school, middle school and elementary school with me on Facebook and began to compare their lives to mine. Some are traveling the world, some are getting married or are in a serious relationship. Some are having babies and settling down, and some have jobs that pay well. Meanwhile, I am over here as a recent college grad, looking for a decent job, hustling my way through the blogger sphere, with a part-time job I hate and no boyfriend or even a date on the horizon.
Anywho, last year I attempted to calm down the anxiety that came with the quarter life crisis to be honest it worked. So here’s what happened or what did I do to calm down. I still feel like a lost loser, but I am not pulling my hair with anxiety anymore.
First of all you have to remember:
“Don’t waste your time comparing yourself to others, we all march through life on different rhythms .”
In the age of social media it is so hard not to compare yourself to others. I don’t mean it only for people who, like me, are going through the quarter-life crisis, but to people from all ages. Yes, comparison in a way is inevitable, there is always something in the back of your brain that is not that happy to see that someone younger than you already has a masters (true story).
I believe Facebook has more room to look into people’s lives and that is why I am only mentioning Facebook. I decided to stay away from Facebook as much as possible to avoid senseless comparisons. If you look at it for a different stand point yes, you might be a little late or behind, however, by comparing yourself to other you only get anxious and that is not healthy.
Another little advice to manage the anxiety that comes with the quarter-life crisis is to:
Understand your path on life and why did you made the decisions you have made that landed you were you are right now.
For example, yes, the person with the masters as mentioned above. She graduated with a Masters the same day I graduated with a Bachelor’s. However, she graduated with honors from high school. She was admitted into University and then graduated with honors from the Bachelor’s.
I, on the other hand, ditchedschool so much that I don’t even remember going to my English class. Barely graduated high school. Once I made it to a community college, I wondered around trying to find the meaning of life. Which I did not find, what a waste of time… I did not had goals in life or cared for anything. But once I find my path, I walked on it.
You see where I am getting? it’s my fault to be where I am. So there is no excuse to feel like a loser because I acted like one. If i am behind in life is because I unconsciously/ consciously made the decision to be where I am. It is not nice to dwell on the past, and I would never advice you to do that. However, I do believe in giving a momentary thought to understand where you are and how you are going to move forward. What’s done is done.
GOALS, GOAL, GOALS
My third advice is to set goals for yourself. Goals serve as a way to motivate you and for you to be moving and have something to look out for the future. The best way to do goals is to do easy short-time ones. Then you can start moving towards bigger goals.
I barely set goalsfor myself last year, and I had a wonderful year. I am still working on how to set 5 month goals, 1 year goals and 5 year goals. Keeping your goals in your journal, bullet journal or planner is a great way to keep track of them.
So set goals for yourself, I promise you this little brain storm session will do wonders!
Also, on the topic of being single: I dated a bunch of guys with the intent of getting somewhere serious but these men are not cooperating! so I gave up on the men. Not completely though, I still believe there must be that someone out there.
SHOP THE LOOK!